I'm taking a break from therapy right now. Next time around, I'll have a better idea of what to look for in a therapist and what I need out of it. Still the best, hardest thing I've ever done for myself. It's a process, but I would recommend it as a resource to anyone who's open to it.
[Single-panel cartoon of a girl with a braid in a zoom therapy session, sitting in front of a laptop screen. The heading reads, "Why everybody needs to be in therapy." With a mildly bemused expression, the girl says to the screen, "Literally, nobody else seems to care about my problems...[a beat] It's weird." Comic illustration by Connie Sun, cartoonconnie, 2022.]
This is so true...
After decades of therapy I have learned there are two kinds of therapists: those who want you to learn to help yourself, and those who want to keep you dependent on them so they have money coming in regularly from a set of clients. This was the subliminal message I often picked up in the US, as if they were saying, "You'll never really get better, but that's OK, we're here for you."
I once remarked to my last therapist that it seemed like a codependent profession; do they not spend their lives "rescuing" others? Apparently that had never occurred to her--she sat for a full minute in silence mulling that one over.
Everyone should have therapy, especially therapists!
Post a Comment